2/16/09

Back with a double dilemma

even though you have not asked I am hale and hearty and still searching for a guy that can bring my emotions under control...dats a roundabout way of saying I was alone on vals day..terrific..now i have nothing to write except to lament my single state...
The truth is i have met two terrific guys..One is yoruba and the other Edo..long nd short..they are different in evry way..
*complexion
*finances
*height
*ambition
*charisma
One cries the other doesnt and you know how much i hate tears in a man but he is so cute ..
One is my tender age and the other matured..and ladies you know the age mate boyfriend is never ready when you are to go to the next level..but the one my age is my tribe and that counts for a lot because my parents are tribalists and will not allow me to marry outside my tribe..
I call one silentnight and the other endurance(for what he suffered in the hands of his ex-gal)
Holla at me if you think i have just reason to be concerned about tribal differences..i have already lost husband-material cos he is igbo and when i mentioned it to my father jokingly he almost had a heart attack..

12 comments:

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

My sista, far be it from me to advice you, but I have to say that it is more important to marry the person you love, respect and cherish, regardless of tribe, race, nationality.
Even though I would never encourage anyone to disobey their parents, (sometimes), think your parents will get with the program eventually. They rather you be happy with someone who will treat you well than be with a loser who happens to be from your tribe.

As to the guys you mentioned, which one are you attracted to? Who can you see a future with and why? I'm just curious....

NIGERIAN CURIOSITY
IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN I ONLY HAD ONE...

Danny Bagucci said...

Guess you are best placed to know what are the absolute "can't haves" and what you can put up with from both parties.........I agree with Madam SSD that parents wil eventually defer to their better judgement - especially when the ramifications of the ground they hold become apparent....

QMoney said...

he almost had a heart attack that u were considering marrying the guy or that u let him go?

Dr Mark said...

am actually more attracted to the yoruba guy more@SSD and i know my parents will accept me with whoever i bring

@Danny Baggucci---Yes and thank you i agreee with you

@Qmoney---dat i was considering babes

RocNaija said...

End of the day you just need to ask yourself.. "Can i see myself with him in 20 odd yeas time?"
If there's any hint of hesitation then, he's not the ONE.
It does also help if you have a vague idea what your looking for.. ;-)
Good Luck..

Buttercup said...

Hey babe..been a while!

I'd say follow ur heart..as cliché as that might sound..parents will always be parents, they arent the ones that r gonna spend the rest of their lives with the person, its u that will!

All the best!

musco said...

u & boys sha!

let's see in 'camera' 4 my own take.

scribble,me.free said...
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scribble,me.free said...

i know exactly how that is luv...My dad once said, "You can marry whoever you want, as long as she's god-fearing(understandable) and she's not Jamo, White, Ibo, Hausa or Rivers"... Guess what tribe he's from..lol..he should have just said i'm restricted to Yoruba because now, I'm gunna bring home a Chinese girl :-P

Tbh, it's simply about finding your soulmate, and as long as that's the person you're meant to be with and you're treated right, your parents have zero say

Parrot said...

@rocboy- i rily cant say who i c myself with in d next few years..maybe d yoruba guy bt he is subtly fucking up but am still open to parental pressure and anybody could still apply..

@buracup--i c u oh...u are locking steady with chacha abi..babe am goin 2 follow my heart and whatever throbs to make my choice..

@musco--as we no come get time to yarn 2 mush cos of transcript bruhaha we go jammer anoda time...

@scribble,me.free--tanks for stopping by..forget d chinko oh no giv ur papa heart problem..in d end it boils down to me so i will make any decision but also will keep there advice in mind..dere has to be a reason he is acting like that so i know i have to bear dat in mind

Chari said...

follow ya heart baybay follow am!

ehen come update na...ki lon hapn?!

Parrot said...

i will soon..several don dey happen sef